I was on facebook this morning when I read a very sad thing from Elly Mayday's page. Elly is a unbelievably gorgeous pin up model who began her career as a plus sized girl, campaigning for body acceptance and loving yourself. Recently, she has been battling with cancer and through it all has remained strong and just as lovely as ever.
She received a comment from a fan telling her that she won't be her fan anymore because she has lost weight (due to cancer) and basically that it's not okay for plus sized girls to build up a following as a big girl and drop some pounds later.
This struck me personally. In 2011 I posted about how I had surgery to remove my gallbladder and wanted to lose weight to improve my health and be able to be energetic and fit for myself and for my kids. Wouldn't you know it, I got some less-than-positive feedback from someone about how disappointed she is that I want to lose weight. See that post here
Girls, I weigh 217 pounds today. I am 28 years old and 5 foot 7 inches tall. This is not healthy. If I continue making the choices that I have been making, I will eventually have serious health problems. My back will hurt, my knees will give out, I certainly wont be able to fit into any of my lovely vintage dresses....and running through the park with my kids? Forget about it.
It's okay to embrace your flaws, to love your body and to dress to make yourself feel beautiful. It's not okay to abuse your body by eating McDonald's every day because "big is beautiful". Curves are lovely but there's a fine line between "big is beautiful" and a deadly problem. I'm not trying to be hurtful or mean. I say these things because I care about myself and I care about others. I had a family member who was a mother of 3 and died too young because of problems relating to her weight. Now her kids have to raise their children without a grandma. It was very much a situation like "What's Eating Gilbert Grape"....minus the house-burning.
So far this month, I've lost 5 pounds and I'm hoping to get down to 160 by summer. I won't ever be a skinny girl because my body wasn't made to fit into a size 5 but I want to be healthy for my family and for myself. Some may approve and cheer me on and some may say nasty things because I'm not fat enough for them anymore. I feel sad for these people because they are totally missing the point of being body positive. Really, they are just as bad as people who say you have to be skinny to be beautiful.
Like Elly, I will always campaign for self love, acceptance and a body positive way of thinking but I will also stress the importance of taking care of yourself. Stay strong, stay beautiful and for goodness sake-
support your sisters regardless of their dress size!